Hawthorn Grief Care provides accompaniment, connection and support for bereaved parents and others facing grief and loss.

Bereavement Doula

I offer support and accompaniment before, during, and/or after miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. Similar to all postpartum doulas, I hold as much of the logistics of life as you can let go of while also providing support specific to grief and loss. What everyone needs during this time is different; We will decide together what I can offer you based on what you need help with and what you think would make this time a little bit easier. Below is a short list of possibilities:

  • Providing local resources
  • Meal preparation, grocery shopping, and errands
  • Accompaniment to medical appointments, etc.
  • Listening and peer support
  • Creating momentos
  • Making a support plan and communicating with friends and family about needed support

Birth Doula

I primarily see doula clients who have previously experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss and are pregnant again. I also see clients who are seeking trauma-informed doula care or who are looking for a queer doula.

What I offer is tailored to your needs: we will together create a plan for how I can best support you during your pregnancy. In addition to providing support during your labor and birth, I can offer assistance in creating birth plans, answer your questions about the birth process or medical interventions, provide emotional and physical support during labor and in the immediate postpartum period, support your family in supporting you, provide comfort techniques, offer basic breastfeeding counseling or infant feeding tips, answer newborn parenting questions, suggest reading materials or referrals to other practitioners, and more.

Birth doula package includes three meetings during pregnancy, care during active labor and birth, and up to three postpartum visits in the year following your birth. Click here for fees.

Ritual & Ceremony

I offer ritual and ceremony to assist you in honoring and memorializing a loved one after their death. We work together to create a ritual that meets your personal, religious, cultural and/or spiritual beliefs and traditions. This can take place at any point after loss, however and wherever you feel is right. I am here to listen and to help you sort through your existing ideas of how to honor your loved one, as well as provide options and share ideas for how others have memorialized friends, families and loved ones.

For bereaved parents, this may be a time to share your grief and mourning with others who were also awaiting this new life or a private ritual for parent/s to honor your child while beginning the journey of learning to parent a baby gone too soon.

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing (S.E.) is a tool for listening to and addressing the places that trauma is held in the body. S.E. focuses on learning to sense messages from the body/brain as a way to start regulating the nervous system. When not constantly coping with the effects of fight-flight-freeze, people often find space for so much more: Resiliency, engagement, and even joy.

S.E. is not therapy, and does not rely on you telling your story to help you process, integrate, and heal from trauma. Sessions do not involve touch. I will guide you through exercises and questions meant to help you more fully inhabit your body and your nervous system, and to help you listen to and become aware of what comes up.

Sessions last an hour. I am in my advanced year of Somatic Experiencing training and currently offer sessions on a donation basis.

Provider Consults & Trainings

  • Facilitated debriefing and support for care providers who have been working with clients experiencing pregnancy or infant loss
  • Individual and case-specific consults via phone, skype or in person
  • Training on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support tailored to your team
  • Consultation on implementing systems to best support clients experiencing pregnancy or infant loss

Groups and Community Gatherings

“Trauma recovery can take place only within the context of relationships; it cannot occur in isolation.”

— Judith Herman

All groups are temporarily on hold. We are reevaluating and restructuring the groups. If you are interested in attending a support group please reach out as there may be one in the works.