Hawthorn Grief Care provides accompaniment, connection and support for bereaved parents and others facing grief and loss.
I offer support and accompaniment before, during, and/or after miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. Similar to all postpartum doulas, I hold as much of the logistics of life as you can let go of while also providing support specific to grief and loss. What everyone needs during this time is different; We will decide together what I can offer you based on what you need help with and what you think would make this time a little bit easier. Below is a short list of possibilities:
- Providing local resources
- Meal preparation, grocery shopping, and errands
- Accompaniment to medical appointments, etc.
- Listening and peer support
- Creating momentos
- Making a support plan and communicating with friends and family about needed support
I primarily see doula clients who have previously experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss and are pregnant again. I also see clients who are seeking trauma-informed doula care or who are looking for a queer doula.
What I offer is tailored to your needs: we will together create a plan for how I can best support you during your pregnancy. In addition to providing support during your labor and birth, I can offer assistance in creating birth plans, answer your questions about the birth process or medical interventions, provide emotional and physical support during labor and in the immediate postpartum period, support your family in supporting you, provide comfort techniques, offer basic breastfeeding counseling or infant feeding tips, answer newborn parenting questions, suggest reading materials or referrals to other practitioners, and more.
Birth doula package includes three meetings during pregnancy, care during active labor and birth, and up to three postpartum visits in the year following your birth. Click here for fees.
Ritual & Ceremony
I offer ritual and ceremony to assist you in honoring and memorializing a loved one after their death. We work together to create a ritual that meets your personal, religious, cultural and/or spiritual beliefs and traditions. This can take place at any point after loss, however and wherever you feel is right. I am here to listen and to help you sort through your existing ideas of how to honor your loved one, as well as provide options and share ideas for how others have memorialized friends, families and loved ones.
For bereaved parents, this may be a time to share your grief and mourning with others who were also awaiting this new life or a private ritual for parent/s to honor your child while beginning the journey of learning to parent a baby gone too soon.
Somatic Experiencing is a method for addressing traumatic stress held in the body. Past trauma can leave us feeling overwhelmed and constantly reacting. Our nervous system’s life-saving coping mechanisms (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Dissociate) often run on excess once we no longer need them to. Somatic Experiencing helps our bodies take full notice and to remember the times we feel safe and supported. This self-regulation and internal resource building helps to build our capacity and resilience, allowing the possibility for greater aliveness, connection and joy.
I see clients working with trauma of all kinds and at various points in their process. Including but not limited to grief and loss; birth trauma; miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss; dissociation; near death experience; and loss due to suicide.
I am not a therapist. Somatic Experiencing can be used as a stand alone modality or in conjunction with therapy. Many people engaged in ongoing therapy find Somatic Experiencing a useful additional tool for working with trauma.
“Trauma recovery can take place only within the context of relationships; it cannot occur in isolation.”— Judith Herman
Groups and Community Gatherings
All groups are free. Located at Sage Healing Collaborative, 201 Waterman Ave. East Providence RI. Please RSVP or contact with questions. Our apologies, not wheelchair accessible.
Miscarriage Support Group
Peer facilitated. Open to anyone who has experienced miscarriage.
1st Tuesday of every month 6-8pm
Stillbirth & Infant Loss Group
Peer facilitated. Open to anyone who has experienced stillbirth or infant loss.
2nd Tuesday of every month 6-8pm
Subsequent Pregnancies Support Group
Series open to anyone who is pregnant after a previous loss. We will schedule the group once enough people have signed up. Reach out if interested.
Provider Consults & Trainings
- Facilitated debriefing and support for care providers who have been working with clients experiencing pregnancy or infant loss
- Individual and case-specific consults via phone, skype or in person
- Training on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support tailored to your team
- Consultation on implementing systems to best support clients experiencing pregnancy or infant loss